I think the biggest problem with modern feminism is how much of it relies on this “choice feminism” of performing femininity. The problem with this is that society is the one making the choice, by way of societal pressure. Sure, someone can wear makeup or shave their legs and have it “be their choice” as no one is physically forcing you to do these things. However, society is forcing you to do these things for the validation you receive once you perform these expensive and time consuming asks. Society makes you have more confidence and feel prettier when you put in the effort. And society bases a woman’s worth on her appearance. Therefore, you will feel better performing these actions, even though you made the choice to do them. You will find more confidence within society by giving into society.
All in all, there is nothing wrong with wearing makeup or shaving your legs. But the expectation for women to perform these acts is a problem. It costs women money and time and energy, and it exists because women’s worth is tied to her beauty/sex appeal/sexual availability to men.
Your personal choice is fine. It’s not right. It’s not wrong. But understand where the confidence and preference for performing these extra feminine rituals comes from to further your understanding of our patriarchal society.
TERFs don’t interact.
EDIT: also society pressures trans women even moreso than afab to conform to these standards. the pressure to be seen as a woman is tied into the time and money consuming acts of performing femininity. please reblog this version.
breaking bad, fight club, rick and morty, clockwork orange, and the catcher in the rye are all arguably good things - but if a man says they are his FAVORITE book/movie/tv show? RUN.
Can someone explain this to me?
They’re all works that are examinations of compelling but deeply flawed (usually narcissistic and violent) men. People rightly like all these works because they are good, but the implication of the original post is that if a guy says they are his favorite work, he is probably misunderstanding the point of the work and instead idolizing the male protagonist and is unable to recognize their flaws.
Basically, ask why they like it. If they like it because they think it’s well-written and made, you’re probably good. But if they want to be like Walter White, or Tyler Durden, or Rick Sanchez, or Alex DeLarge, or Holden Caulfield: yeah, RUN.
Finally I can reblog this post.
This also goes for Mad Men, run like hell from any guy who identifies with/idolizes Don Draper
“It’s a satire. Many don’t get that… My daughter had a friend named Max. She told me ‘Fight Club’ is his favorite movie, I told her never to talk to Max again.” David Fincher, director of Fight Club
